For me, therapy is a blank space where one can step off the hamster wheel of life and take time to reflect on the self-determinant aspects of life. To be human is to feel pain. I believe in harnessing the indelible human spirit in all of us, the spirit that strives to survive despite these inevitable hardships. While emotional pain and distress is unavoidable, it’s effect on the outcome of our lives is not. Through building a positive and supportive therapeutic alliance with my clients, I work toward finding effective means of managing these adversities so as to yield more positive life outcomes.
As I said on my home page, I use a mindful based approach in therapy, which is focussed on changing what is within your control and learning to better tolerate what is not.
I see both adults and adolescents from age 16 years and older for individual therapy.
Our relationships are an integral part of our overall mental health and wellbeing. When supporting couples to get the most from their relationship, I use an emotion-focussed lens. This means that I try to focus more on the emotion that the conflict evokes, rather than the content. Often there is a disconnect between what you and your partner/s "say" during conflict, and what you actually feel. We also attach meaning to situations based on what we we feel, rather than what our partner/s actual intention was. Emotion-focussed therapy helps you to re-connect around the emotional content of your interaction and uncover potentially damaging patterns of dis-connect, as a means of trying to repair these areas. If you engage in couple therapy I will see you and your partner/s together and not as individuals. We usually do 70 minute sessions weekly, but this will vary depending on your specific needs.
It is so important that a therapeutic space feels comfortable for you, and that you feel like the kind of connection you have with your therapist is right for you. As such the first session is always just an assessment, where I will ask you a few questions and get to know you a bit better, but it's as much an opportunity for you to get to know me. As Psychologists we all work in different ways, so toward the end of the session I will explain how I may be able to support you in your therapeutic goals, but there is never any obligation. We can decide together if you think that my space will be the right space for you. If we do decide to continue to work together, usually we would do weekly sessions of 50 minutes each. Its very difficult to say how many sessions you will need, as this is different for each person, but we will negotiate around this as we progress together.
"In the depth of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer."
Being a human being is immensely complex. As such, the kind of support that one can get from a therapeutic experience can never be summed up in a simple list, but here are some of the most common things that I have assisted people with:
Self-esteem and personal development
Relationship / Couple work
Support after break-ups
Life stage coaching
Loss and Bereavement
All psyhchiatric disorders
My online sexology brand is called: "All that Sexy Stuff". I use these platforms to promote Sex-Positive activism. Sex-Positive messaging is about encouraging people to TALK ABOUT SEX MORE. Through de-mystifying sex in this way, it is our hope that people will be able to embrace a more positive attitude toward their sexuality and enjoy greater levels of sexual satisfaction. I also address the ways in which Sex-Negative messaging creates prime conditions for the oppression of people based on their sexual choices and their sexual expression. I am particularly interested in the intersection of race and class in terms of sexual oppression, and am dedicated to working toward the eradication of unequal access to Sexual Health based on race and class membership. While I do speak as a Sexual health professional, I express many of my own personal views on these platforms. My views are considered to be progressive and do challenge the boundaries of sexual conservatism, but this does not preclude me from being able to work within the ambits of your personal views.